Stress - peer support forum

I always adapt to my family and this results in stress for me.

Because I live abroad, I see my parents only once or twice a year, but when we see each other it is for some weeks which is very intense because I stay in their house.

And then I (and everybody in the house) falls back into old family-patterns. One of those is that I always adapt to everything and everyone.

I feel the expectations of my parents that they want me to behave in a certain way. And I fall back to my pattern from the past and fulfill that expectation. This creates a lot of stress.

Anybody recognizes this?

Every time again I experience times of stress in my life and I don't really now how to prevent that. It always feels like a kind of breakdown

I have a continuous feeling that I am supposed to something and there's still a long list of todo's waiting for me. In this time of fast media, I also always have the feeling that I have to respond very fast.

The things that are on my todolist, also really need to happen. I try to change that, but I simply do not manage. It's just like it is my fate, that I will always have to experience stress to get everything done.

It feels like I cannot relax anymore and there is no time at all anymore for 'me-time'. How do I get out of this?

I always feel stressed when somebody wants something from me.
In my last job, I could get stress sometimes from the amount of work that I had to do, was always still waiting to be done.

By now I mainly get stressed when I have the feeling that somebody wants something from me. That can be people I don't know, but also friends or my partner. When I have the feeling somebody wants something from me (for example go some place), then I feel stress.

Partially that is because I feel responsible for somebody else's happiness. So, that the other is happy (so when I meet somebody that he or she is having a good time)

And I don't like so much (self imposed) pressure. :-)

Expectations always create stress in me.
At work I always had the feeling I had to meet many expectations. Although there was way too much work and too much pressure too high, I still HAD to finish everything. This created a lot of stress and eventually a burn out.

Years later this almost almost happened again. A lot of stress at work, because of the pressure and I thought I had to finish everything. Fortunately I could take a bit more distance, but I still got a lot of stress and physical pain (like belly, shoulder, headache)

Anybody recognizes this?

Yes, I have stress. And I get stress from everything. Short on money, what other people think of me or what I think other people think of me.

I would like to feel a bit more relaxed.

Yes, I would like to be a nice and quiet pool of relaxation.

Anybody here a quiet pool of relaxation? :-)

I recently found out that I have a gluten intolerance and endometriose, this exhausted me completely I have to say.

Before that many years of stress caused by some things. No time to catch my breath, just hop to the next dilemma. Because of the diagnose I became much more aware of what I feel and that is not so nice.

3 kids are eating cookies with gluten and I completely stress out hahaha While it's actually just about adapting. But because of the high sensitivity in me personally, I feel too much if you know what i mean.

I also sometimes really have the feeling I die, while I say to myself relax, nothings the matter. Everybody sometimes has stomach ache. But lately it is sometimes really very painful, because of wrong breathing or chewing too fast. This makes that I hardly dare to eat. Compared to before I knew about the glutins I don't eat so good. My stomach is swollen so I cannot really eat.

But anyway I'm kind of exhausting myself. And I would like to have a button that I could press and that the stress would disappear. Sounds fantastic to me!

When i feel stress, I withdraw and take rest. I also let my friends now that I do not have time for them. If stress is still present, then I find somebody to talk about it. That can be a friend, a psychologist, doctor or somebody else I trust.

I used to always just withdraw and not get support. That always helped, but not on the long run. Now I also talk about it with somebody else and then we look at what I could do different.

I regularly wake up with a high and fast breathing. I (almost) panic then. Not so long ago I started with therapy and a lot has become clear. And I get tools that help me to calm down.

Hypnotherapy helped me to learn to relax

Five years ago I was looking for some kind of support to learn to relax. I was suffering immensely from the daily stress at work and all other obligations. Acupuncture was not sufficient, so I looked for something else.

Via my girlfriend I ended up with a hypnotherapist. At the time I had my first visit there, I was not feeling well at all, so it came just in the right time.

During the first sessions I felt a bit insecure - would I wake up again from the hypnoses and what if I would fall in a deep sleep? but all went perfect.

I felt relaxed and was able to consciously hear everything that was said. After three sessions I felt reborn.

It's very strange, but you really feel that something is changing in your body and mind. Now I do regularly self-hypnoses when I have a hard time.

I also regularly go back to the hypnotherapist for "maintainance". That is very nourishing. It is a fantastic way to get rid of a problem without medication. I would recommend it to anybody!