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Anxiety and fear
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I'm always scared I'll miss something. If there is an activity somewhere, or I've received an invitation, want to go there, because I'm scared that it might be fun and I don't want to miss it.
Even when I feel that I need some rest and probably should stay at home on the couch, the fear of missing something can become so immense that I "have" to go.
This fear also causes that I'm continuously checking my mobile phone and facebook. It appears that there's also a name for this: Fear of Missing Out (FOMO).
It causes an almost continous anxious feeling.
I would love to feel more relaxed.
Wow, I recognize this very much! Didn't know there was a name for it. When you find out how to deal with this, I'd love to hear some tips!
I am afraid to drive a car. When I drive, I often get ill. I think I am going to faint or worse and that I will lose control over the car and create a heavy accident.
When I have to drive the kids it is even worse, because I will bring them in danger too. A couple of times I really did not feel well and I had to pull over because I started to get dizzy.
Now I do not dare to drive anymore, only small distances. When I know that I have to drive a longer distance I start to feel tensed already days before. On the internet I read about panic attacks. I think I will have to find some kind of support for that.
Everyday I am terrified to go outside and do what I need to do. I have to force myself. I feel sick and I cannot eat because then I have to throw up.
I am scared that people think it is strange, I find it also strange myself, that a grown up woman is so scared, although it doesn't make any sense, but I also lay awake at night, thinking about that I have to face everything again the next day.
It has been like this my whole life and I do not see a way out. Did already some therapies and took pills, but it didn't help. Now I started again with another kind of therapy, I hope it works this time.
Are there people who recognize this?
EMDR cured me from a phobia for needles. Needles where always a disaster for me, I was terrified. Blood samples or filling caveties where almost impossible. On the internet I found an EMDR therapist that helped me to deal with the fear and after a couple of sessions I was ok to, for example, go to a dentist again.
So what I would like to share with everybody that suffers from some kind of phobia: don't keep walking around with it, do something about it! Because it is possible and will help you a lot!
I was worried about everything. With everything that was going to happen, I could imagine a worst case scenario. And it felt like that was for sure going to happen, otherwise I would not imagine it, right?
Always a good reason to be worried... Untill I talked with a therapist about it who told me that I simply have a very big imagination. The fact that I can imagine something doesn't automatically mean that I have to be afraid it is going to happen.
Now I am not so often scared anymore. I can often even enjoy the creativity of my brain.
My whole life I had dental fear and I had no idea where it came from. That's why I did not go to a dentist for years.
Now I go to a therapist. One of the things she did is EMDR. It's really amazing. I am not afraid anymore to go to the dentist. I am even relaxed going there! I could never have dreamed that this would happen.
Everyday I am very scared that somebody close to me will throw up. I am terrified for throwing up and I do not know what to do. I feel guilty and scared. Scared to be wrong. I pray everyday that my daughter will not get sick. If she gets sick, I do not dare to stay alone with her.
Nobody understands it. Me neither, I find it strange that a grown up woman is so scared, although it doesn't make any sense.
I do not know what to do. Of course I get that it is just a fear and it is not real, but I do not see a way out.
I tried some therapies already, but so far it did not work. I just started a new one, I hope this time it works.
Are there people that have the same?
I am always afraid I am coming down with something. I feel pain everywhere. It is also like I get ill every time again. Or that something is coming up. My doctor says it's psychosomatic.
In the mean time I am often not able to go to work, or get out of bed at all. Then I have to stay home and I feel very sad for myself. Often I do not even go to see anybody anymore, because I think it is anyway no use.
Nobody understands it, also my family not. And the people at work think I am a poseur. I do not feel recognized, it's not like I am doing this on purpose!
Recognizable for someone? There must be more people feeling like this.
My house doctor advised me to do hypnotherapy. I will try it out, I am very motivated, because I want to get rid of this!
Two years ago I went to a psychotherapist. He was not so nice and one time he even was aggressive. Really like an anger attack. He made me scared, but because I wanted the therapy to work I kept going. I got more and more down. Eventually I stopped going there, but it was really a negative experience. I really came out worse then when I started.
I feel bad hearing that Caroline.
That psychotherapist sounds very unprofessional, that he acts out on you. That's not his place.
In my work I have experience and contact with a lot of clients and therapists, but I've never heard of a story like that.
I hope you filed a complaint againt him at the association he was registrered with.
And I hope that you feel better now (with or without the help of another therapist of counsellor)
I am all the time worried. I have that already for a very long time. In the night I often lay awake thinking. I wonder about wether I am good enough as a mother or if my colleges like me, or I am doing my work well enough. Actually I am then happy that the day did not start yet and that I am still in bed.
I often wondered where that fear comes from, because I know it is not real. At least I think so... But I never found out why. Actually I am just all the time worried. Does anybody know this?
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