Cashmen (Clarence) | Counsellor (Individuals, Couples, Families) and Supervisor

Introduction

No Matter Where You Are in Your Journey, You Belong Here.

Your struggles are real, and you don’t have to carry them alone. By now, you must have realised that trying to overcome them on your own doesn’t work. In fact, carrying that weight in isolation might be part of the problem. Whether you are navigating a difficult life transition, feeling overwhelmed by stress, or processing deep pain, I am here to walk alongside you. Together, we will find a path forward.

About Me

I know how unsettling it can feel to navigate big life changes and face deep personal challenges. My own journey has taken me from South Africa to teaching in New Zealand and spending a year in Saudi Arabia. Living and working across different corners of the world has taught me a profound truth: though our backgrounds may differ, the desire to be truly seen, heard, and valued is universal.

For the past 10 years, I have worked as a pluralistic, systemic counsellor and mental health professional. I have walked with individuals from all walks of life through their darkest and most complex moments. I don't believe in a one-size-fits-all approach because your pain, your history, and your goals are unique to you.

What My "Pluralistic" Approach Means for You

You might wonder what a "pluralistic" approach actually means. Simply put, it means I believe there is no single "right" way to heal. Instead of forcing your unique story into one rigid type of therapy, we work as a team. We will look at your life as a whole system—your relationships, culture, environment, and your innate universal human needs.

From this foundation, we combine different tools that truly resonate with you. You are the expert on your own life, and my role is to listen to your needs and adapt my skills to fit you perfectly.

Areas I Can Support You With

If you are struggling with any of the following, please know that your feelings are valid, and there is hope:

·       Navigating Anxiety & Moods: Anxiety, GAD, Depression, Panic Attacks, Panic Disorder, Phobias, Social Phobia, Fear, Worrying Too Much, Hyperventilation, Climate Change and Natural Environment Anxiety.

·       Processing Trauma & Heavy Stress: Trauma, PTSD, Burnout, Stress, Workplace Stress.

·       Finding Self-Acceptance: Low Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence, Body Image, Being a Perfectionist, Being Assertive, Setting Boundaries.

·       Healing Relationships & Connection: Relationship Issues, Codependency, Communication, Bullying, Feeling Lonely, Jealousy, Parenting.

·       Understanding Your Mind: Neurodiversity, ADHD, OCD, Sensory Processing sensitivities.

·       Moving Through Transitions & Habits: Expat Issues, Grief, Addiction, Anger Management, Eating Disorders, Eating Problems, Sleep Problems, emotional and psychological strain from eco-anxiety (or climate anxiety).

My Therapeutic Approaches

By combining mind-based insights with body-centred approaches, we can work together to calm your nervous system, meet your fundamental emotional needs, and build practical tools for lasting change. Because your healing journey belongs to you, I draw from a wide range of therapies to best support your mind, body, and spirit:

·       Somatic & Trauma-Informed Care: Uncommon Knowledge, Somatic Experiencing, Somatic Therapy, Havening,  Polyvagal Therapy (nervous system regulation), Root Cause Therapy, Emotional Freedom Techniques.

·       Compassionate, Deep & Positive Processing: Reframing techniques, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Psychodynamic Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Mindfulness, Talking Therapies, and Positive Psychology (building on your inherent strengths and resilience to help you thrive).

·       Practical, Gentle & Solution-Focused Guidance: Psychoeducation, CBT, DBT, ACT, Human Givens Psychology (ensuring your fundamental emotional needs are met), Solution-Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Exposure Therapy (safely overcoming fears and phobias), NLP.

·       Sensory & Nervous System Modulation: Sensory Modulation interventions (using tailored sensory inputs to self-soothe, manage intense distress, and regain calm).

·       Specialised Funding & Support: ACC Counselling, EAP Counselling, Te Whatu Ora Counselling, Expat Therapy, Career Counselling, Victim Support, Supervision.

·       Nurturing Relationships & Youth: Child Counselling, Youth Counselling / Coaching, Family Therapy / Coaching, Couples Counselling, Parenting.

Take the First Step

Reaching out for help takes immense courage, and you don't have to make any big decisions today. I invite you to book a free, no-obligation initial chat. This is a gentle, pressure-free space for us to connect, see if we feel like a good match, and talk about how we can work together toward your healing.