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More and more I feel the emptiness

Years ago my wife passed away. Over the years it has become more difficult for me. More and more I feel the emptiness she has left behind.

The people close to me don't know anything about this. In the beginning I received some help from them, but as time goes by everyone seems to assume I'm fine.


Anonymous
> 2 years ago

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Dear Anonymous

I can understand a little the situation you are in. A bit more than six months ago I lost my best friends (23 years old, we were best friends since we were 10) In the beginning I still got a lot of support from friends & family, but now I start to feel alone.

A few weeks ago it was his birthday and I can honestly say that I have never felt so alone before. As time goes by the feelings seems to get worse.

I can not really start to share about it with family and friends. I have the idea they will think I am wining. The one person I trusted to talk about personal things has died and the more time passes the more I notice this.
I hope you have found a way or an outlet by now.

I would love to hear some tips on how I can get over this a little bit.

Warm greetings,


D W
> 2 years ago
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I can feel with you so much. I have the exact same experience with people in my surrounding also from church ask only now and than how I am doing. My husband died 1,5 years ago from a heart attack. I cannot walk so well. So I didn't just lose my buddy, but also my caretaker. My husband supported me a lot. So I know what you're going though. I wish you strength!


Els
> 2 years ago
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My husband died just about a year ago. In the beginning you are lived, there is much to take care of and it doesn't really sink in yet that he NEVER is coming back.

In the morning when you wake up everything falls on you, it is a feeling of pain. Life is never going to be the same again and a part of you is missing.

Indeed many people think now, also family, a year ago, the pain will have become less by now, but for me it only gets worse.

I was just watching television and I saw about this website. I am already happy I could write my story down now.
Much luck.


Anonymous
> 2 years ago
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Hello Els, well we share a lot and I also have a physical disability and yes also my husband supported me a lot. I have someone to clean the house but they are not allowed to do much and it creates gossiping, I live in a small town.


Jenny
> 2 years ago

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